GETTING TO KNOW THE UNKNOWN IS ONE PATH TO PEACE

About two months ago my grandchildren returned home after a weekend away (boy, aged 5 1/2, twin girls, aged 4 1/2). Little did they know, but in their absence their silly, old Granpa adopted a small dog. When they came in the dog greeted them at the door…… there were shrieks of panic, total hysteria. They were afraid of the new addition to the family despite his willingness to be their friend.

They left, but an hour later one of the girls returned and extended her hand in friendship to Mookie. Mookie responded by kissing her hand and cuddling up to her in the chair. She then ‘reported’ to her siblings that there was nothing to be afraid of…”just get to know him.” So, Amir returned as well….. after all, how could a macho little boy let his sister ‘show him up’? Amir too, gave Mookie his hand, and within minutes they were best of friends. It took the other twin a few days to join in, but she did.

The next day, the children came running in as soon as school was out…. to play with Mookie. He is their best friend at this stage.

On a small level, these kids learned a very valuable lesson…. they got to know the unknown…. and they made peace with it. It was a simple process…. but a necessary one.

Wouldn’t it be nice if this could apply to society in general? Wouldn’t it be nice if despite the government’s attempts to halt the peace process, a just and lasting peace was established in Israel/Palestine…. just because we all took the time to get to know the unknown.

The following is a post that I wrote about three years ago….. more about the ‘unknown’…..

You see everything in Jerusalem. It draws tourists from all over the world, every race, every religion, every political persuasion. Our own local population is quite a mixture as well…


We have Muslim women who dress like this woman…

We have Jewish men that dress like these men…

It was once thought that ignorance is bliss… that is certainly not the case today and there is no excuse for much of our ignorance, especially when it pertains to our fellow citizens.


A quote from a beloved Star Wars character, Yoda is…“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”


It was expanded by an unknown writer to say…”IGNORANCE leads to FEAR which causes HATE which leads to ANGER, which ends in SUFFERING.”
I prefer the second quote and it is fitting to the following episode I wish to relate here…


There was a woman walking towards the bank in my neighbourhood the other day. She was dressed like the woman in the photo. A man, on his way to the coffee shop passed her, he was dressed like one of the men in the other photo.


She covers her face so it would not be seen by men other than her husband, he, by his garb represents the ultra orthodox section of Judaism, is not supposed to look at other women. But he did, and he panicked. He ran from that woman as if he saw the devil himself. Why, because of ignorance. He had no idea why her face was covered. He was afraid. Most likely his fear will lead to hate and that will lead to suffering.


We cannot continue to live in our little isolated worlds. We have to open our windows and see who else dwells there. That alone will be a start to end this type of behaviour. It might even lead to peace.

Another post from my archives also deals with the question of fear…. it is worth reading if you missed it…

One of the most brilliant quotes I ever heard from a movie is Fear is the path to the darkside. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate, leads to suffering.” The quote is from the most lovable, fictional character ever to come out of the ‘big screen’. His name was Yoda, from the Star Wars series. Though fictional, there are many true life lessons to be taken from it. That particular quote is just one of them.
Fear is one of the biggest problems facing both the Israeli and Palestinian people…. fear of the unknown. That fear has led to anger…. anger that could have been avoided if the fear factor was not present. Needless to say, that anger led to hate which we see on a daily basis here…. as well as the suffering which results from that hate.
Understanding and tolerance are the best ways to eliminate the fear…. understanding eliminates the unknown, tolerance teaches us to accept that which might be different, therefore eliminating the anger and the suffering. These are not far fetched theories, these are proven facts, facts that I have been living with for nearly 25 years, right here in Jerusalem.
After you read the brilliant essay presented below, you will understand why I choose to live in this particular neighbourhood, despite the fact that it is situated on the ‘other side’ of the Green Line. I choose this area to be my home because of the reasons dealt with in the essay…. reasons that one day will become the norm in all other parts of Israel. A norm which will break down walls, not build them.
The essay was written by Seth Freedman who is a resident of Jerusalem. He is a regular contributor to Comment is Free, a blog site that appears in the Guardian.

FEAR BUILDS WALLS

Could the harmony that has developed from an influx of Arab families in an area of Jerusalem set the tone for the rest of the country?

By Seth Freedman

Many critics of Israel’s security wall assert that its construction has driven another nail into the coffin of possible integration between the local Jews and Arabs. However, thanks to an unexpected phenomenon arising from its erection, certain Jewish parts of Jerusalem are experiencing an influx of Arabs into their areas – and the early indications are that their assimilation is progressing relatively smoothly.

The district of French Hill, which is technically over the Green Line but in reality bears little resemblance to the typical “settlement” stereotype, has seen a steep rise in the number of Arabs seeking to move into its neighbourhood in recent years. Not wanting to be caught on the “wrong” side of the security wall, many Arab families have sought homes on the Israeli side of the barrier, in order to ensure their Israeli IDs aren’t revoked, as well as to avoid hours-long delays at checkpoints as they commute to and from work.

With prices in the Arab villages of East Jerusalem soaring in the wake of a flood of eager buyers, those with fewer funds available have opted to move into Jewish parts of the city, including French Hill and nearby Pisgat Ze’ev. Their arrival hasn’t been to everyone’s liking, with the usual suspects up in arms and demanding that other residents band together to keep the Arabs out and ensure that the neighbourhoods remain strictly Jewish.

One such charming individual was quoted as saying: “As a Jew I am happy to be a racist,” claiming that it was the only way to preserve his children’s future in the face of the Arab invasion. Fortunately, however, his odious attitude is very much a minority one – at least, as far as I could tell from a visit to the area.

On arrival in the town centre, it was plain to see that the more level-headed and sedate residents have no problem with their neighbours and fellow shoppers. Jews and Arabs alike thronged the cafes, jostling for position in the bright sunshine as they downed cappuccinos and mint teas at the outdoor tables. The local bank was doing equally brisk business, and customers in kipot (skullcaps) stood in line behind others in Arabic headscarves with no hint of tension present.

Sitting behind the counter at Cafe Malcha, the Jewish owner spoke proudly of the mixed group of customers who pack his shop every day. “There’s no problem here. Jews and Arabs sit together, everyone’s friendly, and they come from all over, including the centre of Jerusalem and the surrounding [Arab] villages.” He pointed out that it is mainly the secular Jews and Arabs who socialise with one another, “since the religious on both sides are far more cautious.”

Iyal, a 19-year-old Arab who waits tables at the cafe, agreed with his boss that French Hill is largely devoid of any racial tension. “I’ve worked here for years”, he said, “and I never see any racism in the area”. Sitting outside was a group of five Arab workers, chatting loudly to one another in Arabic and clearly at ease in their surroundings – belying the image that some reporters portray of French Hill as being a hotbed of anti-Arab racism.

However, that’s not to say that under the surface there doesn’t linger some degree of antipathy between the area’s ethnic groups. Isawiya’s youth have something of a poor track record when it comes to their treatment of any Jews who enter the village. Many Jews go there to shop, or get their cars repaired, and are often pelted with rocks and stones by the local children, which does nothing to enhance relations between the two sides. At the same time, local Arab residents have made no bones about their desire to keep their neighbourhoods all-Arab, forbidding the sale of homes to Jewish buyers for fear of losing the Arab identity of their districts.

Similarly, one Jewish girl I spoke to had a great deal of venom in her system when it came to the local Arabs. “I can’t trust them enough to live alongside them,” she said flatly, before going on to assert that “they all want to kill us simply because we’re Jews, so why should we let them move into our neighbourhoods and get the chance to?” When pressed, however, she conceded that her work as a local receptionist has brought her into contact with plenty of Arabs, “and the ones I know aren’t like that at all. I suppose I shouldn’t generalise about them, actually.”

Despite it going against her defensive mentality, it is clear that the experience of working alongside Arab colleagues and discovering what they’re like as individuals – rather than collectively tarring them as “the Arabs” – has produced a chink in her armour. While I still wouldn’t want her in charge of the peace process, given her overriding penchant for painting the Arabs as bloodthirsty Jew haters, the fact that she softened her position at all during the course of our conversation indicates that the process of assimilation is bearing positive fruit.

And, in the words of another local I spoke to who said: “I can barely tell who’s Jewish and who’s Arab round here”, the success of French Hill’s multicultural exercise might well set the tone for the rest of the country one day. Of course, things aren’t going to change overnight – Arabs are still treated with a great deal of suspicion by many Israelis, at both street and institutional levels, but that shouldn’t stop the moderates on both sides forging on with their goal of overcoming the prevalent racist attitudes.

There is an aphoristic piece of graffiti sprayed near the checkpoint between Jerusalem and Bethlehem that reads: “Fear builds walls,” which is as true as it is depressing. However, one unlikely byproduct of the security barrier’s construction could, ultimately, end up eradicating at least some of the fear that exists between the two communities, thanks to the Arab migration into Jewish neighbourhoods that it has created. And that, despite the overarching negativity that surrounds the building of the wall in the first place, is well worth clinging on to for those seeking at least a modicum of hope from a seemingly hopeless situation.

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2 Comments

  1. al said,

    May 17, 2009 at 13:45

    Well, this is the NATURAL mode of humanity, to be at peace with each other. We know in our Be-ing, that we are the same as all over Life forms. ALL of them.

    But then steps in greedy men, wanting control over the Souls in human clothing- these men create RELIGIONS

    Baby, there is no greater power than control over other people! And, and, the best thing about it is, that People in general, don’t know this, so the clerics, popiolas and priests (DO know this, they’re taught this kind of power, in their seminaries, imam, mullahs, rabbis get power-trips, all the time.

    Why do you think that “there’s no business like show business?” There have been stories that show people force themselves to “go on with the show” and as the show proceeds, the actors start feeling better and better, til at the end, their freeling super-duper. That’s because they’re taken the energy from the people in the audience!

    This is what the clerics of all religions do. It has NOTHING to do with genuine spirituality, or love of one’s fellow be-ings.

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